Relationship breakdown

These issues concern us because we invest so much time, effort and personal security in a relationship. If a woman has low self-esteem, she may believe her partner will leave her for someone better. Sometimes this can become a self-fulfilling prophecy as she drives her partner away by becoming too 'clingy'.

Ask yourself if there's evidence the relationship is going wrong and tell your partner how you feel. According to relationship counsellor Denise Knowles, "Talk to your partner frequently and honestly about your relationship - airing the good and bad points." If you can't find any reason for your concern, you may just need to boost your self-esteem, perhaps by taking an assertiveness course. It may also help to look back at your own life to pinpoint the root of the problem, for instance did you have a stable home life? Did your parents fight a lot? Knowing will help you deal with them. If you can't do this alone, a counsellor will be able to help.

I am getting a divorce!

Married today, divorce tomorrow. Hollywood celebrities are doing it. No big deal. People I know are getting divorce even at the elderly age of 56. Friends and relative have gone through divorce.
Once a taboo thing in Asian countries, but as we adapt more Western culture in our lives, the word divorce is not a 'big' issue among couples any longer. The number of divorces is becoming high. Why is this so? The blame seem to fall on the women who could afford to break free from an unhappy marriage.

Many divorcee claimed that they get to know themselves better after the divorce and thus have a clearer idea of what they need. Getting marriage is like taking chances. It's a gamble. After all, one can't simply stay single just because you are unable to face the possibility of failure.

The increase in the number of financially independent women with the resources to opt for a 'second life' instead of putting up with a dismal marriage. Just as worrisome was that marital breakdowns were occurring much earlier.

Divorces within five years of marriage accounted for a massive 38 per cent compared with 15 per cent for couples who had been married for over 20 years. This suggested a trend towards second marriages like in the West since the average age for men to tie the knot is 28 while women marry by 26.